How to Accept Failure and Mistakes
No matter how well you plan or implement, sometimes things arenít going to work out as you expected. Sometimes you're going to make mistakes, but sometimes you're going to experience failure due to nothing you have done. However, it happens, and due to that, itís essential to learn how to accept failure and mistakes as part of life and not the end of the world.
Feel Your Feelings
One thing to realize up front is that your feelings are perfect and are ëallowedí no matter what. No one has a right to tell you not to feel a certain way. However, understand that your own thoughts are what make you feel something. If you can change the way you think of something, you may be able to affect how you feel about it too.
Be Kind to Yourself
There is a vast difference between the notion of being nice and that of being kind. When you are kind, you are mindful of the impact your thoughts and actions have on yourself and others. Think and do kind things, and youíll end up a happier, healthier person who is not at risk for burnout.
Acknowledge Your Own Mistakes
When you do make a mistake, it's imperative that you accept responsibility for your actions that lead to the failure but not the things you cannot control. For example, if you missed a deadline because you binge-watched a new TV show, thatís on you. But, if you missed a deadline because you were sick, thatís not on you.
Prepare Yourself Mentally for Failure
Everyone makes mistakes no matter what, and everyone falls short of their goals. This is normal life. If you don't fail sometimes, it's likely you're not even pushing yourself hard enough. Everyone cannot be number one every time, and that includes you. Instead, focus on your effort in proper goal setting to help you avoid failing for that reason.
Learn from The Failure or Mistake
When you do make a mistake or a project or idea fails instead of beating yourself up, figure out what you can learn from the situation. For example, most failures start from day one with goal setting. How could you do this over again differently and get a better outcome? Even if you canít actually get a do-over, itís good to explore the reasons.
Develop a Plan for Moving Forward
Once you're examined the mistakes you made and figured out why you failed, it's time to create a plan to move forward. If you can do everything over again, thatís great, but if you canít, learn from it and move on.
When you take the time to learn from your failure and mistakes, you can actually avoid making the same one twice. When you avoid making the same mistakes again, you will improve your life exponentially as you grow and improve over time. When you keep an open mind about failure and errors, youíll find that you start being more realistic about the goals you set, the actions you take, and the way you view failure and success.