Knowing When To Listen To Your Inner Critic
No matter how much you’ve internalized the concept of soul-love, you probably still have an inner critic nagging at you. That inner voice that is constantly giving us messages is there for nearly everyone. Your inner critic can often be quite a pest, telling you all sorts of negative things that hurt your self-esteem and make you second-guess yourself. But sometimes that voice can be useful. Let’s take a look at when you should listen to your inner critic and when you should ignore it.
About Your Inner Critic
Your inner critic can be due to a lot of different things. Regardless of its purpose, it’s your inner voice that is trying to tell you something or guide you. The name “critic” implies negativity. Therefore, the things this voice has to say are usually negative in nature. Everyone’s inner critic is unique. The messages they give are based upon your own individual life experience and personality. Your inner critic is trying to protect you in most cases, even if that protection ends up hindering you or limiting you in some way.
When to Listen
Sometimes you should take heed when you hear your inner critic giving you a message. In order to know whether the message is helpful or not, it’s important to take time to dissect it. Ask yourself some questions. Is it realistic? Is it helpful? Is it true? If the answer to these questions is yes, you should listen. For example, you may want to go on a date with someone new, but you keep having nagging thoughts telling you to stay home. Sit quietly and think about the reasons why your inner voice is telling you not to go out with this person. If you see red flags or feel this person isn’t being truthful, listen to your gut. It’s there to protect you physically AND emotionally.
When Not to Listen
Often times, we let negative messages that others have given us stick with us through life. We may internalize them as our own and adopt them as self-defeating beliefs. Let’s explore the above date scenario further. Your inner critic is telling you not to go out with your potential date. Why is it saying that? If it’s because you’re not attractive enough or smart enough for them, that’s likely insecurity talking. Go on the date and give it a shot. Don’t let your insecurities or fear win out.
Your inner critic is usually there to protect you. Perhaps it’s acting as a defense mechanism and repeating insecurities you’ve internalized about yourself. Maybe it’s a warning from your gut reminding you to heed red flags.
Take time to listen to your inner critic before deciding how to act. You’ll know whether to give in or not.